Penis Extendes… Become The Ever-Ready Stallion Say Goodbye to Small Dicks

  • Are you unsatisfied with the length or thickness of your penis?
  • Do you feel it could be straighter? Do you wish to have stronger and harder erections?
  • Or are you willing to explore and improve your sexual prowess with a larger penis?

Then penis extenders are for you.

It is no news that nearly all men are in search of ways to enlarge their penises in length and girth. Penis extenders are the easiest, cost saving and most effective way to increase your penis size permanently.

What are they?

Penis extenders are medically tested devices that help to straighten penis curvature, increase penis size in length and girth, improve penis health (new healthy cells are created in the Corpora Cavernosa) and enhance penis erection. Extenders differ in the level of comfort they provide so the time a man would wear it and the results he gets.

How do they work?

Penis extenders are the most effective way to enlarge your penis without going under the knife.

They are also useful in treating erectile dysfunction. Penis stretching works by providing a traction force along the penis causing its tissues to grow and multiply leading to an increase in length and girth. This traction force does this by causing a repeated stress and strain on the penile tissues (at the microscopic level), which stimulates or initiates formation of new cells in the corpora cavernosa (the part of the penis responsible for formation of erections). This process happens at the cellular level and hence is safe and painless.

using-a-penis-extenderHow do you use it?

So you finally purchased the much talked about penis extender, what next?

Using it isn’t tricky at all and they all come with manuals, so follow the directions.

Ideally they should be worn for 6-8 hours and you can divide them into two sessions for example 4 hours in the morning and 4 hours at night. They are ideally lightweight (hence comfortable) and should be worn when your penis is NOT erect- meaning when it is flabby. It is important to remember that the degree of enlargement depends on how long you wear them for, but you will still see positive results if you wear them for up to 5- 6 hours every day.

How do you choose the best one for you?

  • Choose a certified product with top quality materials- they should be durable, tested, safe and effective.
  • Don’t settle for inexpensive untrusted brands.
  • Look for one with a comfort strap so the device can be worn comfortably for as long as you need to wear them. Usually, as they are lightweight and do not cause any discomfort you should be able to wear them for as long as you need to, without noticing.
  • Do your own research before choosing one.

What results should you expect?


Within the first 6 weeks, you should see an increase in length of about 1 inch. By the third month, another inch will be gained. Over 6 months to a year, most users have noticed an increase in length of about 4 inches and an increase in thickness of about 1.5 inches.

Other benefits of using penis stretching extender include, improved blood supply which would in turn give your harder, longer lasting erections and would increase your penile sensitivity leading to a more enjoyable sexual experience for you and of course, your partner.

Still others include a boost in your confidence, increased stamina, improved libido and eradication of premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.

Once you have gained this new stallion sized penis, you can now bring to an end the use of this device. Remember, with penis extenders, the increase in size is permanent.

To stop using the device, it is advisable to stop gradually or in a tapered manner rather than abruptly. For instance, if you used to wear it for 8 hours every day, reduce to 6 hours during the first week; 4 hours during the second week; 2 hours during the third week and an hour during the fourth week before you finally stop using it.

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Make Her Fall in Love with You


Almost every single and straight male knows that making a woman feel exactly the same about you as you feel about her is very difficult. The worst case scenarios when a guy loves a woman is that she does not feel the same way.

Following are some tips that can help you make her fall in love with you:

Don’t be too available

Getting attracted to somebody is irresistible and the desire to say yes to your girl every time is almost unavoidable. But, it is recommended to suppress that desire now. When you are too available for somebody, you become too boring and predictable, and also look desperate for attention. That’s why give yourself high value to get her interested.

Learn to flirt

Flirting definitely works when you want to get notified by women. Learn to flirt, because by doing that you will become comfortable with yourself which will make you look appealing and attractive to women. Also maintain eye contact with your girl when you flirt.

Compliment her

When you start an interesting conversation with your girl, compliment her and tell her she’s hot and pretty. Compliments are the best way to hit a soft spot of women.

Keep her guessing

Another tip to make her fall in love with you is to make her curious about you. Be mysterious, enigmatic, and laidback. Don’t tell her all about you because it will kill the spontaneity and thrill. Keep her guessing. Surprises are always the best.

Be confident

Confidence is the key to make her fall in love with you, because without confidence, you won’t be able to get near even a single female. That’s why it is recommended to forget your fear of rejection. Then, convert that fear into experience and try to have a good time with your girl. After all, it’s what you want in the end.


Make her feel like she is connected to you

This is very important. A woman only falls in love with you when she feels connected to you. But the problem is, most guys don’t know how to make a woman feel that connection. For that, you have to learn how to read a woman in order to make her feel connected to you.

Make her feel like there is chemistry with you

There should be chemistry between you and your girl if you want her to feel the same way about you. Chemistry is something not easily explained. It is a vibe that happens when two individuals have that connection between them and simply can’t hide their attraction for each other.
There has to be a sense of sexual tension

Some guys want to have this loving and romantic sense of love in which there is no sexual tension. But the truth is, you do have to make a girl feel that sexual tension. Because if there is no sexual tension, then you are only pushing for friendship and nothing more. If you want more than friendship and make her fall in love with you, then there should be a sense of sexual tension between you two.

Create a “bond” with her

If you can create a strong bond with a girl, it creates the feeling of you and your girl being a perfect match for each another. You should do this properly and the right way, however. Because you don’t want to bond over shopping. That would only make you a friend of her than anything else.

Have fun when she’s with you and make her laugh

Everyone lives quite a tough life and they love in order to escape the issues of tough life with somebody else. If you are the guy that makes her laugh and have fun with her, then the chances of her falling in love with you are pretty high.


Be mature and special

There are a lot of attractive guys out there, the question is, why would she choose you? The answer to that question is that you are special and mature. You have to stand out from the rest of the guys to be the one she falls in love with. In addition to your juggling or whatever other skills you have, delay the sex issue. There should be a bit of sexual tension, but not too much. Not like the other guys who are waiting to take her to bed the first chance they get. You should respect and love her for herself, this will mean a lot to her.

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Can Penis Pumping Help You with Erection Problems?


There have been a lot of doubts about the benefits and effectiveness of penis pumping.
The most common questions asked are:

  • “How do they work?”,
  • “What is the best way to utilize them?”,
  • “Do they actually help?”, and
  • “Are they safe?”.

All these questions are focused on the effectiveness and utility of these devices. You have probably met many guys who are leading an unhappy and dissatisfied sexual life due to the problems of erectile dysfunction or loose sexual organ. These pumps are useful for them to make things work the best way possible. However, many guys worry about the safe use of pumping because according to them, the excessive use can pose severe problems as well as unwanted side effects.

Penis pumps are not new to men. They have been in use for many years and are still very popular. Men in stable relationships who do not get desired results from impotence treatment pills or who do not wish to take medications at all, prefer to use them. These days, there are various advanced types of these devices available that are not only safe but also easy to use. Additionally, they can also be used for private pleasure due to their vibrating mechanism.

hydro-penis-pumpsHow Do These Pumps Work?

In a nutshell, penis pumps draw blood into the male organ. There are three main parts: a tube that fits over the male member, a pump which is powered by hand or by a battery, and a compression ring which is placed around the base of the penile. The device takes advantage of a vacuum therapy that is helpful for drawing blood into the genital naturally that results in rigidity and increased size of the dick. The mechanism is great and helps the male organ to return to its normal functioning state.

Are They Effective?

As far as the erection is concerned, pumping work great and is effective. For male enhancement purposes, however, using them alone does not help with length and thickness, as these improvements are temporary and only last for a few hours (or for as long as the compression ring is placed around the base of the penile). Although according to a research, the use of these devices helps strengthen the muscles of the penile. It is recommended to use them along with a regular male enhancement exercise, for example, jelqing or any other penis stretching exercise to get maximum results. They can also be used as a warm up before jelqing.

The answer to whether these devices work depends specifically on the recommended purpose for which it is used. As mentioned before, pumping is used mainly to improve blood flow into the cock, which is a miracle for males suffering from erectile dysfunction. They are effective for this purpose and have been working great for many years and helped numerous guys worldwide.


Another great advantage of these awesome devices is that they help with Peyronie’s disease, which is a form of erectile dysfunction and causes severe bending of the dick. In this way, they help straighten the male organ, which adds length in a sense.

When you talk about their effectiveness specifically for male enhancement purposes, the answer is probably negative. Despite the fact that they do cause a temporary swelling that looks like a size increase, there is no reason, either theoretical or evidence-based that this change is permanent.

What Are the Side Effects?

Individuals having issues of erectile dysfunction suffer from psychological anxiety, absurdity, depression, and stress. Some may have complaints of diabetes as well. Nevertheless, such individuals are unsure about the use of pumping in certain cases. They are not sure whether these devices will help them to cure their conditions. Most of these individuals are afraid of potential side effects. According to a study, there are no side effects of penis pumps, however, if they are used improperly it may result in severe physiological complications. Therefore, they should be used in a proper way.

Should I Use them?

It completely depends on your needs. If you are suffering from erectile dysfunction, then these pump are a great way to help you sustain an erection. But, if you want to use them to lengthen your penile, then it is recommended to use them along with other methods, for example, a regular exercise program. If your problem is more severe, then you should visit a doctor and consider male enhancement supplements.

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Low Libido in Women – Why Does Your wife (girl) Reject Sex?


The issue of a decreased urge for sex is not uncommon in women. In fact, most women will attest that they have at one time or the other, experienced a decreased sex drive. Having a low sex drive only becomes a problem if her libido refuses to normalize after longer than expected. Women of all ages can be affected by it, and if left untreated, a decreased libido can lead to relational issues between a woman and her partner; marital frustration and unhappiness for the woman.

On one end of the spectrum, is the decreased libido that occurs due to a specific cause and disappears once that cause is eliminated; on the other end is a condition known as ”hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD)” or ”sexual apathy/aversion”. HSDD is a sexual dysfunction characterized by an absence of sexual fantasies and a loss of the desire for sexual activity, leading to marked distress or interpersonal difficulties.

For a woman to be said to have HSDD, her loss of libido should not be due to mental disorders, drugs, or some other medical condition. A woman with this disorder will not initiate sex, or respond to her partner’s desire for sexual activity.

It is pertinent to note that the level of sexual desire is highly variable from female to female. Different ladies respond to sex differently: one lady might be quick to initiate sex and respond to sex, while another may be less of an initiator, but erotically respond well to it. The diagnosis of low sex drive should be based more on her present response in comparison with how she used to respond rather than on how she responds in comparison with other females.

sexual-apathyTypes of Sexual Aversion/Apathy

Sexual apathy can be lifelong or acquired.

  • Lifelong – She has always had a low sexual desire.
  • Acquired- If she used to have a normal sex drive but now she doesn’t.

Symptoms of Low Libido in Women.

  • Inability to reach climax
  • Pain during sex
  • Depression secondary to low libido
  • Vaginal dryness
  • Lack of interest in sexual activity (no sexual pleasure or excitement, no sexual thoughts, failure to initiate sex or respond when her partner initiates it)
  • Little or no interest or response to erotic stimuli

Difference between Low Libido and HSDD.

Low sexual desire alone is not the same as HSDD- In HSDD, low sexual desire has to be accompanied by marked distress and interpersonal difficulty and should not be cause by any other disorder. Also, to make a diagnosis of HSDD, the woman has to have had a decreased sex drive for up to 6 months.


   Why Does My Wife/Girl Reject Sex?

To correctly answer the question, ”why does my wife/girl reject sex?”, the following questions need to to be answered first.

  • when did it start? – Has your lady always rejected sex or was there ever a time when she enjoyed sex; a time when she would initiate it; and a time when sex was desired and you both enjoyed pleasing each other?
  • does she enjoy sex with other men? In her past relationships for instance, was sex pleasurable for her?
  • is her sexual aversion complete or partial? – Does she masturbate? If yes, does she enjoy it and does she achieve orgasm? Does she initiate sex, and change her mind right before it?


Possible causes of a Low Libido are:

  • Recent or past sexual abuse.

    Many women who have experienced sexual abuse like rape become averted to men and sex.

  • Side effect of Medications

    Some drugs like antidepressants and oral contraceptive pills can cause a decreased libido.

  • Recent child birth and breastfeeding.

    Seriously guys, if you are reading this article because your wife was delivered of a baby 6 days ago and she has refused to ”give you some”, I have nothing to say to you! For many women, after the birth of a child and during the first few months following delivery, there is a dramatic decrease in libido. Remember that this is not peculiar to your wife, be patient and give her time for the hormones and all-what-not to return to normal. She’ll be thankful.

  • Issues with low self esteem and poor body image.

    These issues can make a woman see herself as unattractive, not just in her own eyes but in the eyes of her partner and the way he views her. This would in turn lead to a decrease in her appetite for sex. When a woman feels sexually attractive, her desire for sex naturally increases, but when she feels overweight, underweight or unattractive, it makes her feel undesirable and decreases her desire for sex.

  • Stress and depression.

    In both men and women, stress is the commonest cause of a decreased sex drive. For women, work-related issues, taking care of the kids or taking care of you can cause stress on her and this would affect her sex drive

  • Hormonal changes.

    Rises and falls in hormone levels due to menopause, pregnancy, childbirth or certain ”special days of the month” can make a woman lose her libido. In menopausal women, there is a fall in estrogen level. Estrogen is the hormone responsible for that pleasurable and velvety wetness ”down there”. So anything that causes a drop in estrogen level will lead to vaginal dryness and painful intercourse. Another hormone that plays a role in raising female libido is testosterone. Yes, the same testosterone that makes us sexually hungry is present in women too, but in lower levels. Also, an increase in the hormone, prolactin (during breastfeeding and pregnancy and in some medical disorders) can lead to a decreased libido.

  • Unhealthy Lifestyle

    Alcohol, smoking, an improper diet, a lack of sleep or a lack of exercise can all decrease a woman’s sex drive. Some of these factors (lack of exercise for instance) cause a loss of libido by decreasing the blood supply to pelvic structures including the clitoris and other parts of the genitalia responsible for sexual stimulation and sexual satisfaction.

  • Relationship problems.

    Have you ever noticed that when your woman/girl is happy or has a good day, she is quick to initiate or respond to sex. Exactly the opposite happens when she is unhappy for any reason… Including you! Conflicts and misunderstandings between you and your woman makes sex undesirable for her.

  • Latent lesbianism.

    Women who practice and enjoy lesbianism may loose interest in their male partners making it difficult for them to enjoy or initiate sex with him.

low-libido-treatmentDealing with Low Libido.

The first and foremost step is to find out the cause of the problem,

  • if the problem is relational or emotional, talking about it with her would be the way to go. Try dealing with it outside the bedroom and watch your wife/girl transform into the vixen she used to be ”under the sheets”. The same applies to issues with low self esteem… Communication will really help you both.
  • If the low libido is life long, seek medical help as this variant of low sex drive can be difficult (not impossible) to treat.
  • low libido due to an unhealthy lifestyle can be corrected by making life style changes. She should quit smoking, ”give up the bottles”, exercise regularly, and eat healthy nutritious meals.
  • Low libido due to stress and depression can be handled by helping her with some of the house chores, being there for her and talking with her about the cause(s) of her depression. If symptoms persist, consult your doctor.
  • if she was just delivered of a baby, wait!
    Medicamentous treatment include the use of libido raising drugs like

    • Testosterone supplementation. Example- Intrinsa.
    • Flibanserin – brand name Addyi

    Alternative medicine Using herbs like Gingko biloba, horny goat weed, tribulus, damiana, maca or hops extract.

    Topical Gels

    Topical gels are becoming very popular as they are fast acting and can be used externally. They increase lubrication in the needed zones and will make sex highly pleasurable for her.

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The Power of Penis Pills

Have you caught yourself glancing/staring at the next man’s dick while he takes a leak? For men all over the world, tool size has always been important. To crown it all, it is assumed that bigger penises are preferred by most women. Like women with the perfect figure, having a bigger dick can leave a woman begging and craving to be yours.

Chances are you have been in search for something that works or you just stumbled on this article, whatever the case may be, look no further as you have come to the right place.

good-sex-pillsPenis enlargement, also known as male enhancement has been around for centuries now. If you feel uncomfortable or unsatisfied with the size of your penis, guess what? You are not alone, as studies have shown that over 70% of men are unsatisfied with their penile size though only a fraction of this number actually seek out solutions/remedies.

Penis pills are one of the numerous ways to enhance your penis size, pills seem to be one of the safest methods out there for this purpose. The added advantage of using pills rather than other methods of male enhancement is that pills also handle/take care of erectile dysfunction as they make you last longer in bed; they give you stronger and harder erections; some pills are able to correct hormonal imbalance in males hence improving libido, increasing energy levels and improving fertility.

The big question… Do pills work?

The answer to that question is yes and no, yes in the sense that pills (if original) can add bulk to your penis and can provide all the benefits listed above and no in the sense that, this weight increase is temporary in most cases (especially if used for a short period).

Would I go for penis pills? Yes! Definitely, I would. A larger dick makes you feel more confident, both in the bedroom and out of it and can help deal with relational issues between spouses or couples. As you have read all of these, let’s get down to business.

What are penis pills?

Penis pills are male enhancement drugs/supplements that help deal with erectile problems- erectile dysfunction, weak erections, poor sperm production, decreased sperm quality and count, premature ejaculation problems (help you last longer in bed). Penis pills are for men with the desire to share the experience of bigger and harder erections with their partner(s)

How Do Penis Pills Work?


  • Improving blood circulation – In general, penis pills work by increasing blood supply to the chamber of the penis responsible for producing erections (in some men this chamber doesn’t get adequately filled up with blood, leading to weaker, more flaccid, shorter lasting erections and smaller looking penises)
  • Correcting hormonal imbalance – They increase testosterone levels thereby increasing stamina and libido. Fibrous tissue and fascia can also decrease the filling of the ”erection” chamber, increased fibrous tissue occurs due to hormonal imbalance, hence correcting hormonal imbalance will in turn improve blood supply to your penis.
  • – Increased penile sensitivity – Due to the improved penile blood circulation, there is also heightening of penile sensitivity leading to increased libido, increased pleasure, more powerful climaxes and intensified sexual satisfaction for you and your partner.
  • Increases Nitric Oxide levels – Nitric oxide is responsible for dilating your blood vessels, including penile blood vessels, this in turn improves blood supply to the penis leading to rock hard and more powerful erections.
  • Increased energy and stamina – Some of these herbs contain ingredients that will also boost your energy levels which will keep you ”going” in bed.
  • Stimulates cell growth – Frequent usage of these pills leads to increase rate of growth of the penile cells, this occurs due to increased blood supply to cells.


How do you use these pills?


It is one thing to purchase and stock up on these ”wonder pills” and it’s another to know how to use them properly. In order to get the best out of these pills and to minimize side effects, you need to do the following:

  • Seek counsel from a heath care giver on the safety of these drugs for you. Buy only pills that have money-back guarantee; that have been in the market for at least three years; are made from natural products (herbs) and are safe.
  • Take as directed. Follow the directions written on the bottle- take the right number of capsules daily, at the right time. Taking less than required, will decrease its effectiveness and more than recommended may be detrimental to your health.
  • Take them for up to 6 months. In most people, after taking herbal pills for a few days, there is an improvement in the penile size. You need to realize that this improvement is temporary and you need to keep taking these pills for them to truly last.
  • For quicker effects, it is best to combine this method with other methods like penile exercises (Jells exercise) or by using traction devices. The exercises and traction increases penile size through constant stretching.

How do you choose the best one for you?

The best pills out there are the ones that are first of all, safe! Try taking only herbs and no other medications as other medications tend to have side effects.

couple-are-looking-for-sex-pillsChoosing the best pill can be difficult, to do this:

– Make sure you buy from a trusted seller (discussed above/earlier)

– Make sure the ingredients are safe for you, seek advice from a medical professional.

– Ensure that you make enough research on each ingredient of the pill. Look for its effect, how it acts and side effects.

– An ingredient to stay away from is Yohimbine

– Some important ingredients that should be components of the pill include muira pauma, maca, tongat ali, gingko biloba, tribulus terrestris, L- Arginine and horny goat weed.

What should you expect to see (Positive Effects of using Penis Enhancement Pills)

Most penis pills promise three (3) to four (4) inches growth in penile length and up to 25% increase in girth/width after a minimum of 6 month of steady usage.

Besides an increase in size, you will also notice some or all of the following.

  • Increased stamina and energy
  • Rock hard erections
  • Increased libido (sex drive) and increased penis sensitivity
  • Erections will be quicker to attain and longer lasting
  • Orgasms will be more intense than they have ever been
  • Increase in semen volume and increased fertility
  • No more premature ejaculation- you can last longer in bed


Remember, these effects could disappear overtime if you do not take good pills.

Possible Side Effects of Penis Pills.

Yohimbine is quite dangerous for men who are suffering from heart and kidney disorders

Other side effects include

  • Priapism (abnormally persistent erection)- the penis fails to return to its initial flaccid state.
  • Dizziness
  • Unexplained headaches
  • Stomach cramps, bloating, diarrhea.
  • Possible exposure to pesticides and other contaminants



I’m sure you’ve learnt a lot about penis enlargement pills now and know you can make the good decision of getting them, to improve your sexual confidence and establish your presence more in bed.

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Penis Size – Big vs. Small

The question about penis size has always been a significant one. And many males around the world have argued about which one is better. There are various misconceptions and myths of penile size. It is also a clear fact that the matter of penile being small or big is purely subjective.


Nonetheless the issue is still there, and it forces our mind to think again: “Does size matter?”. However, instead of trying to resolve this issue, it is better to simply compare the advantages and disadvantages of both sides and then try to figure things out from there. Following are some pros and cons of both genital sizes. However, those will not focus on physical appearance, but will demonstrate that both sides have their own share of ups and downs.

Having a “Big” Penis

big-penisThe Good:

  • Most guys who have a bigger cock, tend to have more confidence. They do not shy from engaging in sexual relationships with women as well as socializing and dating.
  • There is a feeling of masculinity and power. You surely feel proud and happy about it.
  • For many women, size does matter, and that’s why they are very lucky.
  • Some unique and impossible sex positions, such as, the head spinner becomes possible and easy with a dexterous and super-long dick. There are many other positions where the big size helps. On the other hand, some women can twist their bodies into some really weird positions during sex, in that case, having a large male organ size does not help.

The Bad:

  • Confidence is a good thing, but being excessively cocky and confident is a turn off for many women. Their world does not revolve around the size of a man’s dick.
  • Sex can be really painful for women, especially in certain positions. It has been confirmed many times. Some women actually prefer a small ‘male organ’.
  • It is a false impression that having a bigger penis means more enjoyable and better sex. Better sex is not related to bigger penile size. Lots of women experience stronger and powerful orgasms with men who are usually smaller, especially in the average range. In short, sexual performance is favored over size.
  • Some women do become afraid when they look at the erection of a big dick. And if the sex is rough, their entire vagina can get sore the next day.
  • Blowjob is also not much enjoyable unless it involves gagging, which most women do not like.
  • Oral and anal sex is scary and could be a real problem.
  • Guys with big dicks tend to shift their tool around a lot during sexual intercourse because it’s uncomfortable.

Having a “Small” Penis

The Good:

  • Big dick has its perks. But there are women who actually prefer a small size penile over a big one. In this case, guys having small penis are lucky.
  • Another false impression is that men having small dicks are not good in bed. Males who think they are inadequate, find other ways to have fun and satisfy women in bed.
  • No discomfort or tearing during sex, which means you can easily go for additional rounds without giving your partner a tough time.
  • Blow jobs are more enjoyable as it’s easier for your partner to fit your cock in their mouth without worrying about gag reflex.
  • Anal and oral sex is not quite as scary.
  • Basic sex positions, such as, missionary, woman on top, doggie style, etc. work very well and don’t cause pain in your woman’s internal organs.

small-penisThe Bad:

  • Guys who worry about their penis size tend to lack confidence, that’s why they shy away from engaging in sexual relationships with women. Lack of confidence is a major turn off for most women.
  • Some women simply are not happy or sexually satisfied with small dicks.
  • Hard-to-reach positions, such as, standing up or stomach are quite difficult to achieve.
  • Sometimes you are inside of her and she barely even knows it.
  • Small penis also tends to slide out. Especially during ‘woman on top’ position.

Above comparison simply shows that there are pros and cons in both sides. No matter what size you have, there are always some advantages and disadvantages. It’s true that most guys want to enlarge their male organ. But in the end, the matter of penile being small or big is subjective. Not every guy in the world wants the same thing. Eventually, it’s all about accepting what you have, or taking steps to change that.

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Dealing with Premature Ejaculation- Your Guide to Lasting Longer in Bed

Premature ejaculation is the number one sexual disorder affecting men today. It is associated with broken relationships and sexual apathy- most men, lose interest in sex after repeatedly trying and failing.

As most men associate their sexual performance with their masculinity, prematurely ejaculating puts a great strain on our confidence and decreases our desire to pursue and enjoy sex and intimacy. About 70% of men have at one time or the other had issues with lasting long enough in bed, so if you fall under this category, have no fear as help is finally here!


What is Premature Ejaculation?

Premature ejaculation also known as early climax, rapid ejaculation or the ”one-minute-man syndrome”, is defined as a persistent or recurrent ejaculation, following minimal sexual stimulation, before, on or immediately after penetration. In simple terms, it is the inability to hold off climax till a time when both partners are sexually satisfied. A man is said to have P.E, if he frequently ejaculates during the first few thrusts; immediately he enters the vagina (before he even starts to thrust) or worse still, during foreplay.

Premature climax is in and of itself a vicious cycle. As an example, let’s say it’s been a while since you last had sex, your partner has been away for three or so months, you had been getting it off solo and she’s finally back! It’s been so long, you worry about how long you’ll last and you think about how many positions you can enjoy with her. She finally shows up…. And after 12 seconds and 3 thrusts, voilà! it’s over, she’s like ”what happened?”

You feel discouraged, you decide to give it a try once more but the fear of failing prevents you from lasting long enough, and on and on the cycle goes…

The question to be asked is, ‘Is there a standard number of minutes a guy should last for?” what duration can we accept as the standard in which anything below this can be considered as ”climaxing too soon”. Since women usually take longer to achieve full sexual arousal and orgasm, choosing a standard duration or time is quite impractical, hence, the benchmark for diagnosing P.E is a consistent failure to hold off climax till both partners are satisfied.

What are Possible Causes of Premature Ejaculation.


Premature ejaculation affects men of all ages, but is mostly experienced by younger men (below 40, usually). The reason for this is, as men age and their number of sexual experiences increase (not solo-sex), they get a hang of the stratagems that can help them delay ejaculation.

Some possible causes of P.E include, but are not limited to

  • First exposure to sex or a long period of abstinence from sex: The excitement of having sex for the first time or having it after a long period of abstinence can make you ejaculate too quickly. Aside from this, there is the urge to ”get it right”, this urge shifts your focus from the pleasures of sex to the need to perform well enough. This would in turn generate a fear of future repeats leading to more and more premature climaxes till it becomes the status quo.
  • Stress: Be it emotional, financial, physical, or mental, stress will ruin sex for you if you let it. Matters like relational issues between you and your partner can make sex difficult or even impossible for you both.
  • Wrong masturbation technique: For the majority of us, when masturbating, our usual incline would be to go as fast as we possibly can so that we can get an ejaculation. Of course, this feels good, but repeatedly using this ”quick fix” technique, especially for newbies, will program our brain and wire our bodies to get off quickly even during sex.
  • Anxiety over sexual performance: P.E occurs due to a shift of focus from pleasure to performance, most times, we worry about how we will perform or if our partner will enjoy having sex with us. Focusing on pleasing yourself and your partner can help deal with this.
  • Medical causes include hormonal imbalance, chronic diseases, problems with your prostate, erectile dysfunction, smoking and side effects of some medications


How Can You Stop Ejaculating Before You Mean To?

As premature ejaculation involves ejaculating before you and your partner are sexually satisfied, there are two main strategies for dealing with it. They are

– Shortening the time your partner takes to achieve orgasm.

– By improving your ability to stay ”rock hard” and ejaculate after your partner.


To shorten the time, it takes for your partner to get an orgasm,


As all women are different, they all have different sexual preferences. Your partner may be one that almost never gets off or only does so if she is on top or in front of the man (in control); after external stimulation (oral sex or with the fingers); after some dirty talking; after some intense foreplay; with some hard thrusting; slow rhythmic sex or with some special positions

Your best bet would be to ask her about what she likes and how she likes it. If she is also a newbie or isn’t really sure, then be willing and kind enough to find her hot spots and help her achieve orgasm quickly. By making her go crazy with all your sexual maneuvers, it would no longer matter how long or short you last in bed as she would climax before you or you would both climax together.

To improve your ability to stay rock hard and ejaculate after your partner

Wear one or more condoms as this would reduce the sensitivity of your penis and would help you last longer.

  • apply penis creams, gels, sprays or take pills that will reduce the intense sexual sensation.
  • Try the squeeze technique: If you sense that you are about to ejaculate, simply withdraw your penis from her vagina and let her squeeze your penis (the part just below the head) gently between her thumb and index finger for 20 seconds. Then she can let go and you can both resume pleasing each other. The technique can be repeated as often as necessary during sex.
  • Be totally stress-free before and during sex and deal with psychological or relational issues
  • Try the ”Stop and Start” method

The stop and start technique is very similar to the squeeze technique, the only difference is in the ”stop and start” technique, there is no need for squeezing the penis. You just withdraw your penis when you feel you are almost climaxing, wait for a few seconds and resume sexual activity when the orgasm fades.

Quick tip The pause in between can be used to change your sex position.

More tips can be found here.

  • Use frequent Kegel’s exercise. This involves squeezing your pelvic floor muscles just like you would if you were trying to hold in urine. It can be done anywhere, avoid holding your breath during this. Do it 2-3 times a day.
  • Have sex in different positions. Try changing from one position to the other, when you get the feeling that you are about ejaculating. Changing positions not only helps deal with premature climaxes, but also adds more spice and variety to the whole sexual experience.
  • Breathe slowly during sex. Breathing deeply and slowly can serve as a distraction to you, it will help bring your arousal back down and will keep you in control.
  • Repeat the sexual act – in most cases men last longer the second time. So if at first you don’t succeed… Try again, and again! Focus more on pleasing you and your partner than on performing well enough to impress her.
  • Do not focus on the sex – try to think about something else for a while. Shifting focus right before climaxing can help prevent ejaculation. Think about something boring for better effect.
  • Masturbate properly. When next you masturbate, slow down. Try a technique similar to the ”Stop and Start” technique, which would involve masturbating/stimulating yourself till you are just about to ejaculate, right before ejaculation, stop the rubbing, wait for a few seconds and continue rubbing. You can repeat this for as long as you can before finally be allowing ejaculation to take place.

Repeatedly using this masturbation exercise will help you to be in control of your ejaculation during real sex.

Last tip: Try masturbating and ejaculating 1-2 hours before sex. This will help to prevent premature ejaculation during the actual sex. After you have had your first ejaculation, you will be able to hold off subsequent ejaculations for longer periods during sex.

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How to Get Ready for the Perfect First Date and What to Talk About on Your First Date


As we all know, first impressions count, as we can never have two first dates with the same person, your first date should be special and memorable for you both. Planning a first date can be a bit difficult especially as you are dying to impress the damsel that finally said yes!

Four important keys to having the perfect first date are planning, not stressing over it, being yourself and getting to know a little about your date (her likes and dislikes) beforehand. Even though people have different pictures of what the perfect first date should look like, here are a few tips that can help you make the time you’ll spend with your new catch memorable for you both and a few ideas on what and what not to talk about with her.

The Perfect Location.

Choosing the perfect location can be quite tricky as you may not know her preferences. Don’t be overly creative and try not to take her somewhere overly fancy or cheap (when choosing a restaurant for instance) and steer clear busy places with too much activity on the first date.

An easy way to go about choosing the perfect location would be to ask her about her likes and dislikes, if she is averted to fish, taking her to a place that serves only fish would be ruining your first date for you both. As the aim of going on first dates is to get to know your new catch and find out if you are both compatible, try taking her somewhere quiet, where you can both talk to and hear each other.

Also make reservations early enough and come up with back up plans, in case plan A does not work, you can fall back on plan B or even C. A few ideas include, going on picnics, miniature golfing, or to the movies followed by dinner (when selecting a movie, it’s best to go with something she’ll enjoy).

The Perfect Look

Your first date is always the time to dress to impress, try putting on something comfortable and dressing appropriately for the location, if you’ll both be picnicking, wearing a suit would be uncomfortable and simply wrong!


Try to look and smell as good as you can but do not suffocate her in the process by using too much or too strong products. Use some cologne, ensure you have fresh breathe, get a haircut and be as neat as you can be. All these should be crowned with some self-confidence as ladies find confident (not overly so) men highly attractive. Try not to slouch when sitting, standing and walking and most importantly wear a smile to complete the look.

The Perfect Timing

Be punctual, most ladies (not all) are known for being late, but as a guy, being right on time or a few minutes early is ideal as your lady will not enjoy waiting while you make a grand entry. Being late will also give her the impression that you are unserious about her or just plain unorganized and lazy.

Remember, there’s also something as being too early, especially if you’ll be picking her up, getting there too early will make her feel rushed.

Buying her flowers, can never be a bad idea (unless she is allergic to them), you do not have to buy her a ginormous bouquet of roses on your first date, ask about her preferences beforehand. Getting her flowers or some other gift would surprise her and leave her smiling throughout the rest of the date. Also concerning timing, your first date should be as short as possible, as long dates tend to get boring for one or both of you and making it brief will leave her yearning for more of you (longing to see you again)

The Perfect Gentleman.


There are easy ways to be gentlemanly, they include holding the door open for her, pulling up her chair for her, helping her with her coat and complimenting her on her dressing, hair, smile or whatever you can genuinely compliment on.

When doing this, try saying something specific and not general, for example, ”I love your smile” or ”that gown looks amazing on you” rather than ”you look good”.

When complimenting her, do not, I repeat, do not do it too much as compliments lose their weight and intensity when used excessively plus you may come off as too desperate or needy when you repeatedly compliment her. Try to compose yourself, be confident, take deep breaths to reduce the stress or nervousness and enjoy the night as much as you can.

Other tips are- be courteous and do not raise your voice, call her a day or two days before the D-day to see if plans are still same and to tell her you are looking forward to spending time with her, hide your devices or put them on silent mode, take it easy with the liquor, chew with your mouth closed, do not speak till you’ve swallowed what is in your mouth and most importantly, be yourself.

The Perfect Kiss (or not)

During your first date, try to flirt in speech and in action, watch/observe her body language to see if she is okay with the flirting. Be confident but not overly so, maintain eye contact with your lady, hold hands, slightly and gently brush her shoulders. Like I said earlier, watch her facial expressions and body language so you don’t end up turning her off with all the flirting. To end the date, whether or not to kiss her and for how long can be tricky.

To play it safe, a light peck on the cheek always does the trick, she may surprise you by asking for a kiss on the lips- if so, give it to her, gladly but gently.

The Perfect Conversation.


After everything else is in check, knowing what to say is usually the most difficult part of dates. The main idea is to be yourself and let things flow naturally, smile as often as you can and help your lady feel relaxed as this will also help her feel free and comfortable enough to speak. The aim of dating is to find out if you are both compatible and if you enjoy each other’s company and this can only be done by being your true self. There are a few ”no-no’s” that you should be aware of before you embark on this date.

You should NOT discuss topics related to religion, war, politics or past/ex- boyfriends or girlfriends on the first date as these topics have the potential of ruining dates.

Keep the conversation simple and interesting, try bringing up topics that you can both talk about, listen (and truly listen) more than you speak, laugh at her jokes and smile at her in between sentences and during those awkward pauses.

You can try asking her a few questions about her day, her hobbies or interests and have a sense of humor, make her laugh as often as you can. Try not to come off as boastful by bragging about yourself or your achievements, if you get tempted to do this, ask her to talk about herself instead, women love to talk and they love it when we listen to what they have to say.

The whole idea of dating is meeting someone, learning about them, finding out if you two are compatible and getting to know if there’s enough chemistry between you two to pursue something more.

Your first date should be fun!



All the way, so as you plan, rid yourself of all negativities and pessimism and predefine to enjoy your time with your new catch. After your time together, remember to tell her you had a great time or call her up that night or the next day to tell her.

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