Low Libido in Women – Why Does Your wife (girl) Reject Sex?


The issue of a decreased urge for sex is not uncommon in women. In fact, most women will attest that they have at one time or the other, experienced a decreased sex drive. Having a low sex drive only becomes a problem if her libido refuses to normalize after longer than expected. Women of all ages can be affected by it, and if left untreated, a decreased libido can lead to relational issues between a woman and her partner; marital frustration and unhappiness for the woman.

On one end of the spectrum, is the decreased libido that occurs due to a specific cause and disappears once that cause is eliminated; on the other end is a condition known as ”hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD)” or ”sexual apathy/aversion”. HSDD is a sexual dysfunction characterized by an absence of sexual fantasies and a loss of the desire for sexual activity, leading to marked distress or interpersonal difficulties.

For a woman to be said to have HSDD, her loss of libido should not be due to mental disorders, drugs, or some other medical condition. A woman with this disorder will not initiate sex, or respond to her partner’s desire for sexual activity.

It is pertinent to note that the level of sexual desire is highly variable from female to female. Different ladies respond to sex differently: one lady might be quick to initiate sex and respond to sex, while another may be less of an initiator, but erotically respond well to it. The diagnosis of low sex drive should be based more on her present response in comparison with how she used to respond rather than on how she responds in comparison with other females.

sexual-apathyTypes of Sexual Aversion/Apathy

Sexual apathy can be lifelong or acquired.

  • Lifelong – She has always had a low sexual desire.
  • Acquired- If she used to have a normal sex drive but now she doesn’t.

Symptoms of Low Libido in Women.

  • Inability to reach climax
  • Pain during sex
  • Depression secondary to low libido
  • Vaginal dryness
  • Lack of interest in sexual activity (no sexual pleasure or excitement, no sexual thoughts, failure to initiate sex or respond when her partner initiates it)
  • Little or no interest or response to erotic stimuli

Difference between Low Libido and HSDD.

Low sexual desire alone is not the same as HSDD- In HSDD, low sexual desire has to be accompanied by marked distress and interpersonal difficulty and should not be cause by any other disorder. Also, to make a diagnosis of HSDD, the woman has to have had a decreased sex drive for up to 6 months.


   Why Does My Wife/Girl Reject Sex?

To correctly answer the question, ”why does my wife/girl reject sex?”, the following questions need to to be answered first.

  • when did it start? – Has your lady always rejected sex or was there ever a time when she enjoyed sex; a time when she would initiate it; and a time when sex was desired and you both enjoyed pleasing each other?
  • does she enjoy sex with other men? In her past relationships for instance, was sex pleasurable for her?
  • is her sexual aversion complete or partial? – Does she masturbate? If yes, does she enjoy it and does she achieve orgasm? Does she initiate sex, and change her mind right before it?


Possible causes of a Low Libido are:

  • Recent or past sexual abuse.

    Many women who have experienced sexual abuse like rape become averted to men and sex.

  • Side effect of Medications

    Some drugs like antidepressants and oral contraceptive pills can cause a decreased libido.

  • Recent child birth and breastfeeding.

    Seriously guys, if you are reading this article because your wife was delivered of a baby 6 days ago and she has refused to ”give you some”, I have nothing to say to you! For many women, after the birth of a child and during the first few months following delivery, there is a dramatic decrease in libido. Remember that this is not peculiar to your wife, be patient and give her time for the hormones and all-what-not to return to normal. She’ll be thankful.

  • Issues with low self esteem and poor body image.

    These issues can make a woman see herself as unattractive, not just in her own eyes but in the eyes of her partner and the way he views her. This would in turn lead to a decrease in her appetite for sex. When a woman feels sexually attractive, her desire for sex naturally increases, but when she feels overweight, underweight or unattractive, it makes her feel undesirable and decreases her desire for sex.

  • Stress and depression.

    In both men and women, stress is the commonest cause of a decreased sex drive. For women, work-related issues, taking care of the kids or taking care of you can cause stress on her and this would affect her sex drive

  • Hormonal changes.

    Rises and falls in hormone levels due to menopause, pregnancy, childbirth or certain ”special days of the month” can make a woman lose her libido. In menopausal women, there is a fall in estrogen level. Estrogen is the hormone responsible for that pleasurable and velvety wetness ”down there”. So anything that causes a drop in estrogen level will lead to vaginal dryness and painful intercourse. Another hormone that plays a role in raising female libido is testosterone. Yes, the same testosterone that makes us sexually hungry is present in women too, but in lower levels. Also, an increase in the hormone, prolactin (during breastfeeding and pregnancy and in some medical disorders) can lead to a decreased libido.

  • Unhealthy Lifestyle

    Alcohol, smoking, an improper diet, a lack of sleep or a lack of exercise can all decrease a woman’s sex drive. Some of these factors (lack of exercise for instance) cause a loss of libido by decreasing the blood supply to pelvic structures including the clitoris and other parts of the genitalia responsible for sexual stimulation and sexual satisfaction.

  • Relationship problems.

    Have you ever noticed that when your woman/girl is happy or has a good day, she is quick to initiate or respond to sex. Exactly the opposite happens when she is unhappy for any reason… Including you! Conflicts and misunderstandings between you and your woman makes sex undesirable for her.

  • Latent lesbianism.

    Women who practice and enjoy lesbianism may loose interest in their male partners making it difficult for them to enjoy or initiate sex with him.

low-libido-treatmentDealing with Low Libido.

The first and foremost step is to find out the cause of the problem,

  • if the problem is relational or emotional, talking about it with her would be the way to go. Try dealing with it outside the bedroom and watch your wife/girl transform into the vixen she used to be ”under the sheets”. The same applies to issues with low self esteem… Communication will really help you both.
  • If the low libido is life long, seek medical help as this variant of low sex drive can be difficult (not impossible) to treat.
  • low libido due to an unhealthy lifestyle can be corrected by making life style changes. She should quit smoking, ”give up the bottles”, exercise regularly, and eat healthy nutritious meals.
  • Low libido due to stress and depression can be handled by helping her with some of the house chores, being there for her and talking with her about the cause(s) of her depression. If symptoms persist, consult your doctor.
  • if she was just delivered of a baby, wait!
    Medicamentous treatment include the use of libido raising drugs like

    • Testosterone supplementation. Example- Intrinsa.
    • Flibanserin – brand name Addyi

    Alternative medicine Using herbs like Gingko biloba, horny goat weed, tribulus, damiana, maca or hops extract.

    Topical Gels

    Topical gels are becoming very popular as they are fast acting and can be used externally. They increase lubrication in the needed zones and will make sex highly pleasurable for her.

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The Power of Penis Pills

Have you caught yourself glancing/staring at the next man’s dick while he takes a leak? For men all over the world, tool size has always been important. To crown it all, it is assumed that bigger penises are preferred by most women. Like women with the perfect figure, having a bigger dick can leave a woman begging and craving to be yours.

Chances are you have been in search for something that works or you just stumbled on this article, whatever the case may be, look no further as you have come to the right place.

good-sex-pillsPenis enlargement, also known as male enhancement has been around for centuries now. If you feel uncomfortable or unsatisfied with the size of your penis, guess what? You are not alone, as studies have shown that over 70% of men are unsatisfied with their penile size though only a fraction of this number actually seek out solutions/remedies.

Penis pills are one of the numerous ways to enhance your penis size, pills seem to be one of the safest methods out there for this purpose. The added advantage of using pills rather than other methods of male enhancement is that pills also handle/take care of erectile dysfunction as they make you last longer in bed; they give you stronger and harder erections; some pills are able to correct hormonal imbalance in males hence improving libido, increasing energy levels and improving fertility.

The big question… Do pills work?

The answer to that question is yes and no, yes in the sense that pills (if original) can add bulk to your penis and can provide all the benefits listed above and no in the sense that, this weight increase is temporary in most cases (especially if used for a short period).

Would I go for penis pills? Yes! Definitely, I would. A larger dick makes you feel more confident, both in the bedroom and out of it and can help deal with relational issues between spouses or couples. As you have read all of these, let’s get down to business.

What are penis pills?

Penis pills are male enhancement drugs/supplements that help deal with erectile problems- erectile dysfunction, weak erections, poor sperm production, decreased sperm quality and count, premature ejaculation problems (help you last longer in bed). Penis pills are for men with the desire to share the experience of bigger and harder erections with their partner(s)

How Do Penis Pills Work?


  • Improving blood circulation – In general, penis pills work by increasing blood supply to the chamber of the penis responsible for producing erections (in some men this chamber doesn’t get adequately filled up with blood, leading to weaker, more flaccid, shorter lasting erections and smaller looking penises)
  • Correcting hormonal imbalance – They increase testosterone levels thereby increasing stamina and libido. Fibrous tissue and fascia can also decrease the filling of the ”erection” chamber, increased fibrous tissue occurs due to hormonal imbalance, hence correcting hormonal imbalance will in turn improve blood supply to your penis.
  • – Increased penile sensitivity – Due to the improved penile blood circulation, there is also heightening of penile sensitivity leading to increased libido, increased pleasure, more powerful climaxes and intensified sexual satisfaction for you and your partner.
  • Increases Nitric Oxide levels – Nitric oxide is responsible for dilating your blood vessels, including penile blood vessels, this in turn improves blood supply to the penis leading to rock hard and more powerful erections.
  • Increased energy and stamina – Some of these herbs contain ingredients that will also boost your energy levels which will keep you ”going” in bed.
  • Stimulates cell growth – Frequent usage of these pills leads to increase rate of growth of the penile cells, this occurs due to increased blood supply to cells.


How do you use these pills?


It is one thing to purchase and stock up on these ”wonder pills” and it’s another to know how to use them properly. In order to get the best out of these pills and to minimize side effects, you need to do the following:

  • Seek counsel from a heath care giver on the safety of these drugs for you. Buy only pills that have money-back guarantee; that have been in the market for at least three years; are made from natural products (herbs) and are safe.
  • Take as directed. Follow the directions written on the bottle- take the right number of capsules daily, at the right time. Taking less than required, will decrease its effectiveness and more than recommended may be detrimental to your health.
  • Take them for up to 6 months. In most people, after taking herbal pills for a few days, there is an improvement in the penile size. You need to realize that this improvement is temporary and you need to keep taking these pills for them to truly last.
  • For quicker effects, it is best to combine this method with other methods like penile exercises (Jells exercise) or by using traction devices. The exercises and traction increases penile size through constant stretching.

How do you choose the best one for you?

The best pills out there are the ones that are first of all, safe! Try taking only herbs and no other medications as other medications tend to have side effects.

couple-are-looking-for-sex-pillsChoosing the best pill can be difficult, to do this:

– Make sure you buy from a trusted seller (discussed above/earlier)

– Make sure the ingredients are safe for you, seek advice from a medical professional.

– Ensure that you make enough research on each ingredient of the pill. Look for its effect, how it acts and side effects.

– An ingredient to stay away from is Yohimbine

– Some important ingredients that should be components of the pill include muira pauma, maca, tongat ali, gingko biloba, tribulus terrestris, L- Arginine and horny goat weed.

What should you expect to see (Positive Effects of using Penis Enhancement Pills)

Most penis pills promise three (3) to four (4) inches growth in penile length and up to 25% increase in girth/width after a minimum of 6 month of steady usage.

Besides an increase in size, you will also notice some or all of the following.

  • Increased stamina and energy
  • Rock hard erections
  • Increased libido (sex drive) and increased penis sensitivity
  • Erections will be quicker to attain and longer lasting
  • Orgasms will be more intense than they have ever been
  • Increase in semen volume and increased fertility
  • No more premature ejaculation- you can last longer in bed


Remember, these effects could disappear overtime if you do not take good pills.

Possible Side Effects of Penis Pills.

Yohimbine is quite dangerous for men who are suffering from heart and kidney disorders

Other side effects include

  • Priapism (abnormally persistent erection)- the penis fails to return to its initial flaccid state.
  • Dizziness
  • Unexplained headaches
  • Stomach cramps, bloating, diarrhea.
  • Possible exposure to pesticides and other contaminants



I’m sure you’ve learnt a lot about penis enlargement pills now and know you can make the good decision of getting them, to improve your sexual confidence and establish your presence more in bed.

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Penis Size – Big vs. Small

The question about penis size has always been a significant one. And many males around the world have argued about which one is better. There are various misconceptions and myths of penile size. It is also a clear fact that the matter of penile being small or big is purely subjective.


Nonetheless the issue is still there, and it forces our mind to think again: “Does size matter?”. However, instead of trying to resolve this issue, it is better to simply compare the advantages and disadvantages of both sides and then try to figure things out from there. Following are some pros and cons of both genital sizes. However, those will not focus on physical appearance, but will demonstrate that both sides have their own share of ups and downs.

Having a “Big” Penis

big-penisThe Good:

  • Most guys who have a bigger cock, tend to have more confidence. They do not shy from engaging in sexual relationships with women as well as socializing and dating.
  • There is a feeling of masculinity and power. You surely feel proud and happy about it.
  • For many women, size does matter, and that’s why they are very lucky.
  • Some unique and impossible sex positions, such as, the head spinner becomes possible and easy with a dexterous and super-long dick. There are many other positions where the big size helps. On the other hand, some women can twist their bodies into some really weird positions during sex, in that case, having a large male organ size does not help.

The Bad:

  • Confidence is a good thing, but being excessively cocky and confident is a turn off for many women. Their world does not revolve around the size of a man’s dick.
  • Sex can be really painful for women, especially in certain positions. It has been confirmed many times. Some women actually prefer a small ‘male organ’.
  • It is a false impression that having a bigger penis means more enjoyable and better sex. Better sex is not related to bigger penile size. Lots of women experience stronger and powerful orgasms with men who are usually smaller, especially in the average range. In short, sexual performance is favored over size.
  • Some women do become afraid when they look at the erection of a big dick. And if the sex is rough, their entire vagina can get sore the next day.
  • Blowjob is also not much enjoyable unless it involves gagging, which most women do not like.
  • Oral and anal sex is scary and could be a real problem.
  • Guys with big dicks tend to shift their tool around a lot during sexual intercourse because it’s uncomfortable.

Having a “Small” Penis

The Good:

  • Big dick has its perks. But there are women who actually prefer a small size penile over a big one. In this case, guys having small penis are lucky.
  • Another false impression is that men having small dicks are not good in bed. Males who think they are inadequate, find other ways to have fun and satisfy women in bed.
  • No discomfort or tearing during sex, which means you can easily go for additional rounds without giving your partner a tough time.
  • Blow jobs are more enjoyable as it’s easier for your partner to fit your cock in their mouth without worrying about gag reflex.
  • Anal and oral sex is not quite as scary.
  • Basic sex positions, such as, missionary, woman on top, doggie style, etc. work very well and don’t cause pain in your woman’s internal organs.

small-penisThe Bad:

  • Guys who worry about their penis size tend to lack confidence, that’s why they shy away from engaging in sexual relationships with women. Lack of confidence is a major turn off for most women.
  • Some women simply are not happy or sexually satisfied with small dicks.
  • Hard-to-reach positions, such as, standing up or stomach are quite difficult to achieve.
  • Sometimes you are inside of her and she barely even knows it.
  • Small penis also tends to slide out. Especially during ‘woman on top’ position.

Above comparison simply shows that there are pros and cons in both sides. No matter what size you have, there are always some advantages and disadvantages. It’s true that most guys want to enlarge their male organ. But in the end, the matter of penile being small or big is subjective. Not every guy in the world wants the same thing. Eventually, it’s all about accepting what you have, or taking steps to change that.

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