As we all know, first impressions count, as we can never have two first dates with the same person, your first date should be special and memorable for you both. Planning a first date can be a bit difficult especially as you are dying to impress the damsel that finally said yes!
Four important keys to having the perfect first date are planning, not stressing over it, being yourself and getting to know a little about your date (her likes and dislikes) beforehand. Even though people have different pictures of what the perfect first date should look like, here are a few tips that can help you make the time you’ll spend with your new catch memorable for you both and a few ideas on what and what not to talk about with her.
The Perfect Location.
Choosing the perfect location can be quite tricky as you may not know her preferences. Don’t be overly creative and try not to take her somewhere overly fancy or cheap (when choosing a restaurant for instance) and steer clear busy places with too much activity on the first date.
An easy way to go about choosing the perfect location would be to ask her about her likes and dislikes, if she is averted to fish, taking her to a place that serves only fish would be ruining your first date for you both. As the aim of going on first dates is to get to know your new catch and find out if you are both compatible, try taking her somewhere quiet, where you can both talk to and hear each other.
Also make reservations early enough and come up with back up plans, in case plan A does not work, you can fall back on plan B or even C. A few ideas include, going on picnics, miniature golfing, or to the movies followed by dinner (when selecting a movie, it’s best to go with something she’ll enjoy).
The Perfect Look
Your first date is always the time to dress to impress, try putting on something comfortable and dressing appropriately for the location, if you’ll both be picnicking, wearing a suit would be uncomfortable and simply wrong!
Try to look and smell as good as you can but do not suffocate her in the process by using too much or too strong products. Use some cologne, ensure you have fresh breathe, get a haircut and be as neat as you can be. All these should be crowned with some self-confidence as ladies find confident (not overly so) men highly attractive. Try not to slouch when sitting, standing and walking and most importantly wear a smile to complete the look.
The Perfect Timing
Be punctual, most ladies (not all) are known for being late, but as a guy, being right on time or a few minutes early is ideal as your lady will not enjoy waiting while you make a grand entry. Being late will also give her the impression that you are unserious about her or just plain unorganized and lazy.
Remember, there’s also something as being too early, especially if you’ll be picking her up, getting there too early will make her feel rushed.
Buying her flowers, can never be a bad idea (unless she is allergic to them), you do not have to buy her a ginormous bouquet of roses on your first date, ask about her preferences beforehand. Getting her flowers or some other gift would surprise her and leave her smiling throughout the rest of the date. Also concerning timing, your first date should be as short as possible, as long dates tend to get boring for one or both of you and making it brief will leave her yearning for more of you (longing to see you again)
The Perfect Gentleman.
There are easy ways to be gentlemanly, they include holding the door open for her, pulling up her chair for her, helping her with her coat and complimenting her on her dressing, hair, smile or whatever you can genuinely compliment on.
When doing this, try saying something specific and not general, for example, ”I love your smile” or ”that gown looks amazing on you” rather than ”you look good”.
When complimenting her, do not, I repeat, do not do it too much as compliments lose their weight and intensity when used excessively plus you may come off as too desperate or needy when you repeatedly compliment her. Try to compose yourself, be confident, take deep breaths to reduce the stress or nervousness and enjoy the night as much as you can.
Other tips are- be courteous and do not raise your voice, call her a day or two days before the D-day to see if plans are still same and to tell her you are looking forward to spending time with her, hide your devices or put them on silent mode, take it easy with the liquor, chew with your mouth closed, do not speak till you’ve swallowed what is in your mouth and most importantly, be yourself.
The Perfect Kiss (or not)
During your first date, try to flirt in speech and in action, watch/observe her body language to see if she is okay with the flirting. Be confident but not overly so, maintain eye contact with your lady, hold hands, slightly and gently brush her shoulders. Like I said earlier, watch her facial expressions and body language so you don’t end up turning her off with all the flirting. To end the date, whether or not to kiss her and for how long can be tricky.
To play it safe, a light peck on the cheek always does the trick, she may surprise you by asking for a kiss on the lips- if so, give it to her, gladly but gently.
The Perfect Conversation.
After everything else is in check, knowing what to say is usually the most difficult part of dates. The main idea is to be yourself and let things flow naturally, smile as often as you can and help your lady feel relaxed as this will also help her feel free and comfortable enough to speak. The aim of dating is to find out if you are both compatible and if you enjoy each other’s company and this can only be done by being your true self. There are a few ”no-no’s” that you should be aware of before you embark on this date.
You should NOT discuss topics related to religion, war, politics or past/ex- boyfriends or girlfriends on the first date as these topics have the potential of ruining dates.
Keep the conversation simple and interesting, try bringing up topics that you can both talk about, listen (and truly listen) more than you speak, laugh at her jokes and smile at her in between sentences and during those awkward pauses.
You can try asking her a few questions about her day, her hobbies or interests and have a sense of humor, make her laugh as often as you can. Try not to come off as boastful by bragging about yourself or your achievements, if you get tempted to do this, ask her to talk about herself instead, women love to talk and they love it when we listen to what they have to say.
The whole idea of dating is meeting someone, learning about them, finding out if you two are compatible and getting to know if there’s enough chemistry between you two to pursue something more.
Your first date should be fun!
All the way, so as you plan, rid yourself of all negativities and pessimism and predefine to enjoy your time with your new catch. After your time together, remember to tell her you had a great time or call her up that night or the next day to tell her.